"Accept and acknowledge your own brilliance. Stop waiting for others to tell you how great you are! Believe it for yourself and about yourself." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Acceptance means that you know, regardless of what happened, that there is something bigger than you at work. It also means you know that you are okay and that you will continue to be okay." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Be patient when it seems things are not going right and may never be right again. Accept that what is yours will come to you in the right way at just the right moment." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Change doesn't have to be hard, and healing doesn't have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Dear God, Please untie the nots. All of the can nots, should nots, may nots and have nots. Please erase from my mind the thoughts that I am not good enough." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Discipline harnesses the mind and strengthens the spirit. We must pray, meditate, and conduct our lives in a disciplined manner. When we are disciplined, we are not easily led off the path that leads toward our good." ~ Iyanla Vanzant
"Do not stand in the way of your own good. Get rid of your bad thoughts, inferior attitudes and limited behaviors and good will be attracted to you. What you give out will be returned to you. It's not easy. It's not magic. But it works." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Each day, focus your attention on what you want. Each day, take one step that will bring you closer to it. ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! The key is to identify it, claim it for yourself, and believe that you are worthy to have it." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Everything happens when it needs to happen; everyone is always where they need to be. You will never miss out on what is meant for you, even if it has to come to you in a roundabout way." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Everything is just as it needs to be. And if we would forgive, our minds and hearts would open and we could see another possibility." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform the level of our self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Everything we experience—no matter how unpleasant—comes into our lives to teach us something." ~Iyanla Vanzant
“Fear wears so many clever disguises. It is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.” ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Forgiveness is a process of giving up the old for something new. Old experiences and memories that we hold on to in anger, resentment, shame, or guilt cloud our spirit mind. The truth is, everything that has happened had to happen. It was a growth experience. There was something you needed to know or learn. If you stay angry, hurt, afraid, ashamed, or guilty, you miss the lesson. You will be stuck in a cloud of pain." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Gratitude is like a magnet; the more grateful you are, the more you will receive to be grateful for." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Growth is a very profound experience. It can be beautiful and ugly, empowering and confining, thought-provoking and mind-boggling, pleasant and unpleasant, all at the same time. Embrace it! ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Guilt over what you did. Guilt about what you didn't do. A guilty mind or heart is incredibly destructive. Guilt damages your self-worth almost as quickly as it erodes your self-respect. The guilt then flows into your relationships, which makes it difficult for you to give anyone the benefit of the doubt. When you believe that you are guilty, you will re-create situations in which you will be accused. … Guilty people are defensive. Quite often they overcompensate by giving too much and saying too much. When a person feels guilty, it is difficult for them to see anything good in themselves, and so they are compelled to try to do more to prove their innocence. Unfortunately, the more they do, the more guilty they feel." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Have the courage to be exactly who you are without apology. Admit your mistakes without beating yourself up. Release all shame! Release all guilt! You cannot live if you are hiding behind what was. Focus on what is, right now, and that is you!" ~Iyanla Vanzant
"I believe that forgiveness is the way that we demonstrate faith in ourselves." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"I now know that nothing in my life will change until I change the way I see my life and myself." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"If it is not your story to tell, you don't tell it." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"If life is going to work on your behalf, you must give yourself permission to grow. If it no longer makes you happy; if you are searching unsuccessfully for ways to make it work; if you know in your heart of hearts that whatever it is, it’s over – let go and grow. Be willing to search for new ways to grow." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"If someone has offended you, insulted you, or disappointed you, let it go! If you are remembering all the ways you have been hurt or forgotten, let it go! Ask yourself, what good does it do for me to hold on to this?" ~Iyanla Vanzant
"In silence, we have an opportunity to reflect, listen, and gain new insights about ourselves. In silence, we can think, feel, and most important of all, breathe. When you seek guidance, understanding, clarity, or peace of mind, the first step is to master the art of silence and to rethink the value of solitude." ~Iyanla Vanzant from Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"It is so easy to identify and judge the bad behavior and wrongdoings of another person. It is far more difficult, and even more important, to see and consider how your own prior bad acts have attracted certain people, situations, and experiences into your own life." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"It takes a lot more courage to let something go than it does to hang on to it, trying to make it better. Letting go doesn't mean ignoring a situation. Letting go means accepting what is, exactly as it is, without fear, resistance, or a struggle for control." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Just for today, allow yourself to embrace all that you are every moment. Know that you are a vessel of light. Allow yourself to release all doubts about your ability, the mistakes of the past, the fear of the future." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Life doesn't actually knock you down. It does, however, provide you with many opportunities to evaluate your standing in life: what you stand on, what you stand for, how you stand within yourself and for yourself." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish, self-centered or self-engrossed. It means that you accept yourself for what you are. Loving yourself means that you accept responsibility for your own development, growth and happiness. When you love yourself, you pave the way for all you want and need to come to you at the right time in the perfect way." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"My grandma always said, "Trouble is what God uses to prepare you for better things!" If you have trouble in your life, you are in a valley. If you are in a valley, you are being prepared for something bigger, better, greater; something you probably could not handle now." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"No matter what is going on in your life today, remember, it is only preparation. People come and go; situations rise and fall; it's all preparation for better things. You must stretch, reach, grow into your goodness. Without the preparation we receive through adversity, disappointment, confusion, or pain, we could not appreciate the goodness when it arrives." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"No storm can last forever. It will never rain 365 days consecutively. Keep in mind that trouble comes to pass, not to stay. Don't worry! No storm, not even the one in your life, can last forever." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Nothing destroys self-worth, self-acceptance and self-love faster than denying what you feel. Without feelings, you would not know where you are in life. Nor would you know what areas you need to work on. Honor your feelings. Allow yourself to feel them." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Our different points of view shape our vantage point and our vision. Just for today, open your heart. Be willing to embrace different points of view, different habits, different responses, different opinions and the differences that exist between yourself and others. " ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Plan your hours to be productive.
Plan your weeks to be educational.
Plan your years to be purposeful.
Plan your life to be an experience of growth.
Plan to change. Plan to grow." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Rather than beating yourself up for what you are not doing, appreciate and celebrate the things you are doing. When you shift your focus away from what you do not want, you can create a vision for what you do. Don't fight with yourself - focus on what you do, can do, choose to do, are ready to do." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Regardless of how hard, challenging, frightening, or difficult an experience may seem, everything is just as it needs to be in order for us to heal, grow, and learn." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"The first thing we have to do is tell the absolute truth. The radical, gut level, honest truth." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"The richness of the present is here. The fullness of now is present. If you are not here now, it means you could be missing the love, joy, peace and brand-new ideas that are here right now." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"There are times when you can expect to be in the darkness, when you will not be able to see what is directly in front of you. In those times, you must realize that you are not in control - God is! When you find yourself in the darkness of an unfamiliar experience, do not fight God for control. Remember that what you can't see, God can!" ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Trust is not about being comfortable. It is about being willing to move beyond your comfort zone when there is absolutely no evidence you will be supported. Think of it this way. Trust is based on your ability to stand your ground and rely on your own abilities, knowing that no matter what happens, you will be better off than you were in the beginning." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"Until today, you may have been living your life in a whisper. Just for today, take one step toward pumping up your volume. Stand up in yourself! Stand up and be yourself!" ~Iyanla Vanzant
"When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then, there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. If you try to hold on to something that has already fulfilled its purpose in your life, you are going to hurt yourself. If holding on is disturbing your peace of mind, it makes sense to let it go." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"When someone entrusts their heart to you they are giving you a piece of their soul. You cannot treat the soul casually. You must protect, nurture and handle it with care." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"When we believe we are losing control, we grab on tight. When our greatest fear comes upon us, we clench our fist and teeth, close our eyes and hold on. We must learn how to let go. When the time comes for growth and change, we must have the courage and faith to let go. Whatever leaves my life makes room for something better.” ~Iyanla Vanzant
"When we have peace in our hearts and minds, we draw peace into our lives." -Iyanla Vanzant
"When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"When you withhold forgiveness or love from anyone, for any reason, it diminishes your awareness of the abundance of good in your life. You are stuck in so much old stuff, new stuff has no way of getting to you. In essence, the good that you withhold from others will be withheld from you." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"You cannot change what you are not willing to face." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"You've got to be willing to lose everything to gain yourself." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there." ~Iyanla Vanzant
"You set the standards for how you will be treated. People will treat you the exact way you treat yourself. So be good to you. Take time for yourself. Rest. Play. Shower yourself with affection, support, and gifts." ~Iyanla Vanzant
“Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change.” ~Iyanla Vanzant
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