"You do not need religion to value morals." ~Pam Cobourn on The New Macho by ManKind Project
"I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again." ~William Penn
"Words pulsate in the veins of my pen"™Leah C. Dancel
"Expectations are incredibly limiting. You get caught in looking for a result and sometimes miss the effort, the journey and the view. We all need to embrace who we are, our hearts and truly love one another. I see so many connected young men on this planet because their minds are open and their spirits are free and full of love." ~Tania Dawkins McKenzie on The New Macho by ManKind Project
"Nature is a woman. Weather is a woman. Being angry at women for their powerful tides is like fighting the ocean waves. A waste of energy. It is so much more freeing to enjoy the waves." ~Kathryn Loar Green on The New Macho by ManKind Project
"Perhaps we are in this world to search for love, find it and lose it, again and again. With each love, we are born anew, and with each love that ends we collect a new wound. I am covered with proud scars." ~Isabel Allende
"We don't even know how strong we are until we are forced to bring that hidden strength forward. In times of tragedy, of war, of necessity, people do amazing things. The human capacity for survival and renewal is awesome." ~Isabel Allende
"We want a world where life is preserved, and the quality of life is enriched for everybody, not only for the privileged." ~Isabel Allende
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"As we grow older and wiser, we begin to realize what we need and what we need to leave behind. Sometimes walking away is a step forward." ~Sye Wells
"Other people will judge. Doing our best and accepting that people will form opinions is far more empowering than stressing about what everyone else thinks." ~Sye Wells
"Sometimes in our attempt to give children what we did not have, we forget to give our children what we did have: truth." ~Sye Of Relief
"Sometimes there is no right or wrong. There isn’t always a right decision or answer. It’s just about what feels right to us right now, and whether we have the courage to honor it." ~Sye Wells
"Whatever anyone else does in their space, is of no responsibility of yours." ~Sye Wells
"When God speaks to you, let His Word be the LAST SAY in your life." ~Sye Of Relief
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"Every soul innately yearns for stillness, for a space, a garden where we can till, sow, reap, and rest, and by doing so come to a deeper sense of self and our place in the universe. Silence is not an absence but a presence." ~Anne D. LeClaire
"Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own? It's time to believe in yourself." ~Rose Russell
"You don't need to be helped any longer, you've had the power within you all along. It's always been there, you just had to find belief and trust in yourself. Now, take a deep breath, take the next step and Shine." -Rose Russell
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"A man in motion always devises an aim for that motion. To be able to go a thousand miles he must imagine that something good awaits him at the end of those thousand miles. One must have the prospect of a promised land to have the strength to move." ~from WAR AND PEACE by Leo Tolstoy
“A preached immorality is more to be punished than an immoral action. You arrive at murder through love or through hate; you propagandize murder only through wickedness.” ~Italo Svevo, Zeno's Conscience
“A priest's life is spent between question and answer-- or between a question and the attempt to answer it. The question is the summary of the spiritual life.” ~Naguib Mahfouz: Three Novels of Ancient Egypt from Everyman's Library
"All for one, one for all, that is our motto." ~The Three Musketeers (1844) by Alexandre Dumas, père ("Tous pour un, un pour tous, c'est notre devise" ~"Les Trois Mousquetaires)
Dumas's most popular novel has long been a favorite with children, and its swashbuckling heroes are well known from many a film and TV adaptation. Set in 17th-century France, this tale of the adventures of D'Artagnan and the three musketeers is the finest example of its author's brilliantly inventive storytelling genius. (Everyman's Library)
“And do you know a funny thing? I'm almost fifty years old and I've never understood anything in my whole life.” ~Richard Yates, The Easter Parade from Everyman's Library
"And even if you cannot make your life the way you want it,
this much, at least, try to do
as much as you can: don't cheapen it
with too much intercourse with society,
with too much movement and conversation.
"Don't cheapen it by taking it about,
making the rounds with it, exposing it
to the everyday inanity
of relations and connections,
so it becomes like a stranger, burdensome."
~"As Much As You Can" by Constantine P. Cavafy from Everyman's Library
(Constantine P. Cavafy was born in Alexandria, Egypt, to Greek parents, on this day in 1863.)
“Between the wish and the thing the world lies waiting.” ~Cormac McCarthy, All the Pretty Horses from Everyman's Library
"But it was above all at mealtimes that she could bear it no longer, in that little room on the ground floor, with the smoking stove, the creaking door, the oozing walls, the damp floor-tiles; all the bitterness of life seemed to be served to her on her plate, and, with the steam from the boiled beef, there rose from the depths of her soul other exhalations as it were of disgust. Charles was a slow eater; she would nibble a few hazel-nuts, or else, leaning on her elbow, would amuse herself making marks on the oilcloth with the point of her table-knife." ~from MADAME BOVARY by Gustave Flaubert (Everyman's Library)
“Death was a blessing, so great, so deep that we can fathom it only at those moments, like this one now, when we are reprieved from it. It was the return home from long, unspeakably painful wanderings, the correction of a great error, the loosening of tormenting chains, the removal of barriers---it set a horrible accident to rights again.” ~from BUDDENBROOKS by Thomas Mann
"Do you not think that there are things which you cannot understand, and yet which are, that some people see things that others cannot? But there are things old and new which must not be contemplated by men's eyes, because they know, or think they know, some things which other men have told them." ~Bram Stoker, excerpt from DRACULA (Everyman's Library)
"English is not spare. But it is beautiful. It cannot be called truthful because its subtleties are infinite. It is the language of a people who have probably earned their reputation for perfidy and hypocrisy because their language itself is so flexible, so often light-headed with statements which appear to mean one thing one year and quite a different thing the next." ~Paul Scott, The Jewel in the Crown from Everyman's Library
"Every one sees what you appear to be, few really know what you are, and those few dare not oppose themselves to the opinion of the many, who have the majesty of the state to defend them." -from "The Prince" (1513), by Niccolò Machiavelli ❀ [Niccolò di Bernardo dei Machiavelli was born in Florence, Republic of Florence on this day in 1469.] from Everyman's Library
"Everything that gives pleasure has its reason. To scorn the mobs of those who go astray is not the means to bring them around." ~from "Quelques mots d'introduction," Salon de 1845 (May 1845), by Charles Baudelaire (Everyman's Library)
“Falsehood is so easy, truth so difficult....Examine your words well, and you will find that even when you have no motive to be false, it is a very hard thing to say the exact truth, even about your own immediate feelings -- much harder than to say something fine about them which is not the exact truth.” ~George Eliot, Adam Bebe from Everyman's Library
"For, although a skillful flatterer is a most delightful companion if you can keep him all to yourself, his taste becomes very doubtful when he takes to complimenting other people." ~from Nicholas Nickleby, by Charles Dickens from Everyman's Library
“For you know that I myself am a labyrinth, where one easily gets lost.” ~Charles Perrault (author of Puss in Boots, Little Red Riding Hood)
"Happiness is a hard master–particularly other people's happiness. A much harder master, if one isn't conditioned to accept it unquestioningly, than truth." ~The Controller from BRAVE NEW WORLD by Aldous Huxley
"Hain't we got all the fools in town on our side? and ain't that a big enough majority in any town?" ~from Adventures of Huckleberry Finn (1885) by Mark Twain from Everyman's Library
"He felt he had lost it for good, he knew what it was to have been in communication with her, and to be cast off again. In misery, his heart like a heavy stone, he went about unliving. Till gradually he became desperate, lost his understanding, was plunged in a revolt that knew no bounds." ~from THE RAINBOW, by D.H. Lawrence (Everyman's Library)
“He filled a shelf with a small army of books and read and read; but none of it made sense... They were all subject to various cramping limitations: those of the past were outdated, and those of the present were obsessed with the past.” ~Alexander Pushkin, Eugene Onegin from Everyman's Library
"He had discovered a great law of human action, without knowing it — namely, that in order to make a man or a boy covet a thing, it is only necessary to make the thing difficult to obtain." ~from The Adventures of Tom Sawyer (1876) by Mark Twain from Everyman's Library
“He looked and smelt like Autumn's very brother, his face being sunburnt to wheat-colour, his eyes blue as corn-flowers, his sleeves and leggings dyed with fruit-stains, his hands clammy with the sweet juice of apples, his hat sprinkled with pips, and everywhere about him the sweet atmosphere of cider which at its first return each season has such an indescribable fascination for those who have been born and bred among the orchards.” ~Thomas Hardy, The Woodlanders, Everyman's Library
"I'm afraid that people who know me as I usually am will discover I have another side, a better and finer side. I'm afraid they'll mock me, think I'm ridiculous and sentimental and not take me seriously. I'm used to not being taken seriously, but only the 'light-hearted' Anne is used to it and can put up with it; the 'deeper' Anne is too weak. If I force the good Anne into the spotlight for even fifteen minutes, she shuts up like a clam the moment she's called upon to speak, and lets Anne number one do the talking. Before I realize it, she's disappeared." ~Anne Frank's final diary entry (August 1, 1944) from THE DIARY OF A YOUNG GIRL
“I am all in a sea of wonders. I doubt; I fear; I think strange things, which I dare not confess to my own soul. God keep me, if only for the sake of those dear to me!” ~from "Dracula" By Bram Stoke
"I am very fond of the modest manner of life of those solitary owners of remote villages, who in Little Russia are commonly called "old-fashioned," who are like tumbledown picturesque little houses, delightful in their simplicity and complete unlikeness to the new smooth buildings whose walls have not yet been discolored by the rain, whose roofs are not yet covered with green lichen, and whose porch does not display its bricks through the peeling stucco." ~from "Old World Landowners" (1835) by Nikolai Gogol (Everyman's Library)
"I don't adopt any one's ideas; I have my own." ~Bazarov from "Father and Sons" (1862) by Ivan Turgenev, Everyman's Library
(Ivan Sergeyevich Turgenev was born into a family of Russian land-owners in Oryol, Russia, on this day in 1818.)
"I exist as I am, that is enough,
If no other in the world be aware I sit content,
And if each and all be aware I sit content." ~
Walt Whitman from Everyman's Library
(Walt Whitman was born 195 years ago today in 1819 in West Hills, Huntington, Long Island, New York.)
“I have seen you only in my dreams: each night you have come to me, wearing my ring, and have kissed me once on the lips - and my heart has gone out to you across the darkness…But in this magic castle I have waited for you: the time to speak of love is not yet.” ~Roger Lancelyn Green, “King Arthur and His Knights of the Round Table: Sir Percivale of Wales” from Everyman's Library
"I know faces, because I look through the fabric my own eye weaves, and behold the reality beneath." ~from THE MADMAN: His Parables and Poems (1918) by Khalil Gibran
“I learned to make my mind large, as the universe is large, so that there is room for paradoxes.” ~Maxine Hong Kingston, The Woman Warrior from Everyman's Library
“I loved her against reason, against promise, against peace, against hope, against happiness, against all discouragement that could be.” ~from GREAT EXPECTATIONS by Charles Dickens
"I simply state that I'm a product of a versatile mind in a restless generation — with every reason to throw my mind and pen in with the radicals. Even if, deep in my heart, I thought we were all blind atoms in a world as limited as a stroke of a pendulum, I and my sort would struggle against tradition; try, at least, to displace old cants with new ones. I've thought I was right about life at various times, but faith is difficult. One thing I know. If living isn't seeking for the grail it may be a damned amusing game." -Amory Blaine from THIS SIDE OF PARADISE by F. Scott Fitzgerald
“If one wanted to depict the whole thing graphically, every episode, with its climax, would require a three-dimensional, or, rather, no model: every experience is unrepeatable. What makes lovemaking and reading resemble each other most is that within both of them times and spaces open, different from measurable time and space.” ~Italo Calvino from "If on a Winter's Night a Traveler"
“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” ~Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden from Everyman's Library (Frances Hodgson Burnett's celebration of the kingdom of earth takes place in a secret garden, where the orphaned Mary Lennox and the invalid boy, Colin, are magically restored to health and well-being by Nature's mysterious living force.)
"In me there have always been two fools, among others, one asking nothing better than to stay where he is and the other imagining that life might be slightly less horrible a little further on." ~from "Molloy" (1951) by Samuel Barclay Beckett from Everyman's Library
(Irish playwright and novelist Samuel Barclay Beckett was born in Foxrock, Dublin, Ireland on this day in 1906. Beckett won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1969 and is best-known for his play "Waiting for Godot.")
"Indeed it may be broadly stated that, with the single exception of gold-fish, of all animals kept for the recreation of mankind the horse is alone capable of exciting a passion that shall be absolutely hopeless." ~from "Chu Chu" by Bret Harte
"Indeed no one hath seen beauty in its highest lustre, who hath never seen it in distress." ~Tom Jones by Henry Fielding from Everyman's Library
“It's a disease. Nobody thinks or feels or cares any more; nobody gets excited or believes in anything except their own comfortable little God damn mediocrity.”
~from "Revolutionary Road" by Richard Yates
“It's a lucky man, a very lucky man, who is committed to what he believes, who has stifled intellectual detachment and can relax in the luxury of his emotions - like a tipsy traveller resting for the night at wayside inn.” ~Alexander Pushkin, Eugene Onegin from Everyman's Library
(Eugene Onegin is the master work of the poet whom Russians regard as the fountainhead of their literature. Set in imperial Russia during the 1820s, Pushkin's novel in verse follows the emotions and destiny of three men - Onegin the bored fop, Lensky the minor elegiast, and a stylized Pushkin himself - and the fates and affections of three women - Tatyana the provincial beauty, her sister Olga, and Pushkin's mercurial Muse. Engaging, full of suspense, and varied in tone, it also portrays a large cast of other characters and offers the reader many literary, philosophical, and autobiographical digressions, often in a highly satirical vein. Eugene Onegin was Pushkin's own favourite work, and it shows him attempting to transform himself from romantic poet into realistic novelist.)
"It's rather difficult, but the merit of all things lies in their difficulty." ~Alexandre Dumas, père, The Three Musketeers from Everyman's Library
"Let all the world witness how many different means Fortune employs when she wishes to destroy a man." --from "The Autobiography of Benvenuto Cellini by Benvenuto Cellini
“Life when one first arrives is a continual mortification as one's romantic illusions are successively shattered and the musical treasure-house of one's imagination crumbles before the hopelessness of the reality. Every day fresh experiences bring fresh disappointments.” ~from "The Memoirs of Hector Berlioz" by By Hector Berlioz
"Marilla, isn't it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?" "I'll warrant you'll make plenty in it," said Marilla. "I never saw your beat for making mistakes, Anne." "Yes, and well I know it," admitted Anne mournfully." ~ANNE OF GREEN GABLES, by Lucy Maud Montgomery from
Everyman's Library (An eleven-year-old orphan, Anne Shirley, comes to help out on a farm on Prince Edward Island and wins the hearts of everyone at Avonlea—a story so popular that it spawned eight sequels after its initial publication in 1908, and has sold millions of copies in paperback.)
“My cruel fate hath warr'd with me in vain
Life, glory, worth, and all unmeasur'd skill
Beauty and grace, themselves in me fulfill
That many I surpass, and to the best attain.”
~Benvenuto Cellini from Everyman's Library
“My doctrine is this, that if we see cruelty or wrong that we have the power to stop, and do nothing, we make ourselves sharers in the guilt.” ~Anna Sewell, Black Beauty (Everyman's Library)
“My friends are my estate.” ~Emily Dickinson from Everyman's Library
“Night, in which everything was lost, went reaching out, beyond stars and sun. Stars and sun, a few bright grains, went spiraling round for terror, and holding each other in embrace, there in a darkness that outpassed them all, and left them tiny and daunted. So much, and himself, infinitesimal, at the core of nothingness, and yet not nothing.”
―from SONS AND LOVERS DH Lawrence (Everyman's Library)
"No doubt you are right, my best of friends, there would be far less suffering amongst mankind, if men—and God knows why they are so fashioned—did not employ their imaginations so assiduously in recalling the memory of past sorrow, instead of bearing their present lot with equanimity." ~from "The Sorrows of Young Werther" (1774) by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
"No man for any considerable period can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true." -from Nathaniel Hawthorne's THE SCARLET LETTER, first published on this day in 1850 from Everyman's Library
“No one is fool enough to choose war instead of peace – in peace sons bury fathers, but in war fathers bury sons.” ~Herodotus from Everyman's Library
(Herodotus is not only the father of the art and the science of historical writing but also one of the Western tradition's most compelling storytellers. In tales such as that of Gyges—who murders Candaules, the king of Lydia, and unsurps his throne and his marriage bed, thereby bringing on, generations later, war with the Persians—he laid bare the intricate human entanglements at the core of great historical events. In his love for the stranger, more marvelous facts of the world, he infused his magnificent history with a continuous awareness of the mythic and the wonderful.)
"No one would have believed in the last years of the nineteenth century that this world was being watched keenly and closely by intelligences greater than man's [...]" ~from THE WAR OF THE WORLDS (1898) by H.G. Wells
“Nothing forces us to know what we do not want to know." ~Aeschylus, The Oresteia (Everyman's Library)
“Nothing in the world delights a truly religious people so much as consigning them to eternal damnation.” ~James Hogg, Confessions of a Justified Sinner from Everyman's Library.
"Of what happened later in the evening nothing definite can here be stated. None of the guests later on had any clear remembrance of it. They only knew that the rooms had been filled with a heavenly light, as if a number of small halos had blended into one glorious radiance. Taciturn old people received the gift of tongues; ears that for years had been almost deaf were opened to it. Time itself had merged into eternity. Long after midnight the windows of the house shone like gold, and golden song flowed out into the winter air." ~from "Babette's Feast" by Isak Dinesen
"One and all we felt that the holy calm that lay like sunshine over the wasted face and form was only an earthly token and symbol of the calm that was to reign for ever." ~Dr. Seward of Lucy Westenra from "Dracula" by Bram Stoker, born on this day in 1847 (Everyman's Library)
“Out of all these creatures you see around me, so docile, so innocent, and so gentle, well, my child, there is scarcely one, scarcely a single one, that I could not turn into a wild animal; a strange metamorphosis to which one is all the more susceptible the younger one enters religion and the less one knows of life in society. These words may surprise you: may God preserve you from ever finding out how true they are. Sister Suzanne, the good nun is the one who brings with her into the cloister some great sin to expiate." ~from Memoirs of a Nun by Denis Diderot
Memoirs of a Nun, which began as a joke and grew into a masterpiece, was one of the loudest salvos fired in the continuing battles between the clergy and the intelligentsia which defined so much of eighteenth-century French history. Diderot's story of a novice held in a convent against her will and forced to undergo curious spiritual and sexual trials displays all the brilliance, icy wit, and worldliness of the Enlightenment at its best.“The feelings resembled memories; but memories of what? Apparently one can remember things that have never happened.” ~from "Childhood, Boyhood, and Youth by Leo Tolstoy
“Pale as a candle flame in the dusk, tallow-pale, he stalked along, holding her hand, and Louie looked up and beyond him at the enfeebled stars. Thus, for many years, she had seen her father's head, a ghostly earth flame against the heavens, from her little height. Sam looked down on the moon of her face; the dayshine was enough still to light the eyeballs swimming up to him.” ~Christina Stead, The Man Who Loved Children (Everyman's Library: Novelist Christina Stead died at Balmain Hospital, Sydney, on this day in 1983, aged 80.)
“Recklessness is almost a man's revenge on his woman. He feels he is not valued so he will risk destroying himself to deprive her altogether.” ~from SONS AND LOVERS by D.H. Lawrence
“She had always wanted words, she loved them; grew up on them. Words gave her clarity, brought reason, shape.” ~The English Patient by Michael Ondaatje, born on this day in 1943
"So many memories and so little worth remembering, and in front of me--a long, long road without a goal." ~Ivan Turgenev, Fathers and Children from Everyman's Library
“The ancients waited for cherry blossoms, grieved when they were gone, and lamented their passing in countless poems. How very ordinary the poems had seemed to Sachiko when she read them as a girl, but now she knew, as well as one could know, that grieving over fallen cherry blossoms was more than a fad or convention.” ~from THE MAKIOKA SISTERS by Junichiro Tanizak
“The belly is an ungrateful wretch, it never remembers past favors, it always wants more tomorrow.” ~Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich from Everyman's Library
"The 'enlightenment ' was not always very'enlightened , in1792'they' murdered thousands upon thousands of men, women: and children in the vendee area simply because they clung to their catholic faith.also why do we presuppose all members of the clergy were non- intellectual ; and all 'members ' of the new ruling class were not only always right but to a man highly intellectually gifted." ~Maureen Meyfarth (Everyman's Library]
“The gods envy us. They envy us because we are mortal; because any moment may be our last. Everything is more beautiful because we’re doomed. You will never be lovelier than you are now. We will never be here again.” ~Achilles from "The Iliad" by Homer from Everyman's Library
"The inexperienced in wisdom and virtue, ever occupied with feasting and such, are carried downward, and there, as is fitting, they wander their whole life long, neither ever looking upward to the truth above them nor rising toward it, nor tasting pure and lasting pleasures. Like cattle, always looking downward with their heads bent toward the ground and the banquet tables, they feed, fatten, and fornicate. In order to increase their possessions they kick and butt with horns and hoofs of steel and kill each other, insatiable as they are." ~from THE REPUBLIC by Plato
“The lost glove is happy.” ~Vladimir Nabokov, Pale Fire from Everyman's Library
“The luck of having talent is not enough; one must also have a talent for luck. ” ~Hector Berlioz from Everyman's Library
"The sad truth was that all of them found anything that did not concern their own country fit only for mockery and laughter. To them such matters were as remote from reality as if they had been happening on Mars; and therefore fit only for schoolboy puns and witty riposte." ~from "They Were Divided" by Miklós Bánffy
(The celebrated TRANSYLVANIAN TRILOGY by Count Miklós Bánffy is a stunning historical epic set in the lost world of the Hungarian aristocracy just before World War I. Written in the 1930s and first discovered by the English-speaking world after the fall of communism in Hungary, Bánffy’s novels were translated in the late 1990s to critical acclaim and appear here for the first time in hardcover. They Were Found Wanting and They Were Divided, the second and third novels in the trilogy, continue the story of the two aristocratic cousins introduced in They Were Counted as they navigate a dissolute society teetering on the brink of catastrophe. Count Balint Abády, a liberal politician who defends his homeland’s downtrodden Romanian peasants, loses his beautiful lover, Adrienne, who is married to a sinister and dangerously insane man, while his cousin László loses himself in reckless and self-destructive addictions. Meanwhile, no one seems to notice the gathering clouds that are threatening the Austro-Hungarian Empire and that will soon lead to the brutal dismemberment of their country. Set amid magnificent scenery of wild forests, snowcapped mountains, and ancient castles, THE TRANSYLVANIAN TRILOGY combines a Proustian nostalgia for a lost world, insight into a collapsing empire reminiscent of the work of Joseph Roth, and the drama and epic sweep of Tolstoy.)
“The best men are not consistent in good-- why should the worst men be consistent in evil?” ~Wilkie Collins, The Woman in White from Everyman's Library
“The tragedy of preparedness has scarcely been handled, save by the Greeks. Life is indeed dangerous, but not in the way morality would have us believe. It is indeed unmanageable, but the essence of it is not a battle. It is unmanageable because it is a romance, and its essence is romantic beauty.” ~from HOWARDS END by E.M. Forster
“There is advantage in the wisdom won from pain.” ~Aeschylus, The Oresteia
from Everyman's Library
[One of the founding documents of Western culture and the only surviving ancient Greek trilogy, the Oresteia of Aeschylus is one of the great tragedies of all time. The three plays of the Oresteia portray the bloody events that follow the victorious return of King Agamemnon from the Trojan War, at the start of which he had sacrificed his daughter Iphigeneia to secure divine favor.]
“Thus fear of danger is ten thousand times more terrifying than danger itself.” ~Daniel Defoe, Robinson Crusoe from Everyman's Library
[English journalist, essayist, political tract writer, and novelist Daniel Defoe died this date in 1731. He was interred in Bunhill Fields, London, where a monument was erected to his memory in 1870. (Defoe is known to have used at least 198 pen names.)]
“There isn’t one kind of happiness, there’s all kinds. Decision is torment for anyone with imagination. When you decide, you multiply the things you might have done and now never can.” ~from OFFSHORE by Penelope Fitzgerald
"Vanity working on a weak head, produces every sort of mischief." ~Mr. Knightley to Mrs. Weston from EMMA by Jane Austen
"We are unfashioned creatures, but half made up, if one wiser, better, dearer than ourselves — such a friend ought to be — do not lend his aid to perfectionate our weak and faulty natures." ~Victor Frankenstein from FRANKENSTEIN by Mary Shelley
“We men are wretched things, and the gods who have no cares themselves have woven sorrow into the very pattern of our lives." ~Homer from THE ILIAD (Everyman's Library)
“We mortals, men and women, devour many a disappointment between breakfast and dinner-time; keep back the tears and look a little pale about the lips, and in answer to inquiries say, "Oh, nothing!" Pride helps; and pride is not a bad thing when it only urges us to hide our hurts— not to hurt others.” ~from MIDDLEMARCH by George Eliot (Everyman's Library)
"We shall all live. We pray for life, children, a good harvest and happiness. You will have what is good for you and I will have what is good for me. Let the kite perch and let the egret perch too. If one says no to the other, let his wing break." ~from THINGS FALL APART by Chinua Achebe
"What transforms this world is — knowledge. Do you see what I mean? Nothing else can change anything in this world. Knowledge alone is capable of transforming the world, while at the same time leaving it exactly as it is. When you look at the world with knowledge, you realize that things are unchangeable and at the same time are constantly being transformed. You may ask what good it does us. Let's put it this way — human beings possess the weapon of knowledge in order to make life bearable. For animals such things aren't necessary. Animals don't need knowledge or anything of the sort to make life bearable. But human beings do need something, and with knowledge they can make the very intolerableness of life a weapon, though at the same time that intolerableness is not reduced in the slightest. That's all there is to it." ~from "The Temple of the Golden Pavilion" (1959) by Yukio Mishima
"When I die Dublin will be written in my heart." ~James Joyce from Everyman's Library
“Were it not for shadows, there would be no beauty.” ~from "The Makioka Sisters" By Junichiro Tanizaki
“Wherever they might be they always remember that the past was a lie, that memory has no return, that every spring gone by could never be recovered, and that the wildest and most tenacious love was an ephemeral truth in the end.” ~One Hundred Years of Solitude, RIP Gabriel García Márquez (1927-2014) from Everyman's Library
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"Angels appear in many different forms to hold your hand through the difficult times." ~Doreen Virtue
"Angels, please help me remember to direct blessings and prayers to everyone I meet today. Please send extra healing energy through me to all my relationships. I ask that each encounter I have bring gifts to everyone involved." ~Doreen Virtue
"Ask God and the angels to help you to meet people who will treat you with respect and love." ~Doreen Virtue
"Don't let a temporary setback throw you off your path. Keep going!" ~Doreen Virtue
"Hold the vision of success, and stay optimistic as you move forward." ~Doreen Virtue
"Honor your sensitivity by avoiding harsh situations as much as possible, and befriending gentle people like yourself. Know that your sensitivity is a gift that is essential to your life purpose." ~Doreen Virtue
"If you could see yourself through the eyes of your angels, you would see how truly amazing and divinely perfect you are!" ~Doreen Virtue
"If you've been feeling pessimistic, the best way to shift into a higher gear is to pour out your feelings to God and ask for help." ~Doreen Virtue
"Never be afraid of failure or disappointment, because those are just temporary experiences on the path to your dreams coming true." ~Doreen Virtue
"The miracle that you have prayed for may look different than your expectations, but you can be sure that it is the highest and best outcome, and that it respects the free will choices of everyone involved with the situation." ~Doreen Virtue
"Trust the inner wisdom and truth that your heart whispers to you, in answer to you questions." ~Doreen Virtue
"When dealing with a difficult person, all that matters from a spiritual standpoint is how you react and treat the person. It's not about getting the other person to change or agree with you. Your spiritual growth is all about the way that YOU deal with the relationship, the person, and the situation. Even if the situation would justify you acting harshly, resist this temptation. Ask for heaven to purify and uplift your thoughts and feelings so that everything you do and say is aligned with Divine Love. This is the path and purpose of the lightworker. This is why you are here." ~Doreen Virtue
"When life seems harsh and frightening, it's akin to a tree being pruned. Sometimes the universe removes the old and unneeded from us, in preparation for the new. If we don't understand this process, we may feel frightened, insecure, or victimized. Yet, the pruning process makes the tree grow stronger and -- like this photo of a plumeria tree near my home -- new branches and flowers begin to appear one by one. TRUST that any pruning you've experienced is preparing you for wonderful and beautiful new growth!" ~DOREEN VIRTUE
"When you stand up for yourself, you are standing up for everyone who will follow your positive example! " ~Doreen Virtue
"You don't have to be a "perfect person" to receive help from Heaven. Everyone who asks for help is equally loved and equally helped." ~Doreen Virtue
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"And...even mistakes are learning experiences. Face your day without any fear." ~Dr. Laurie Mattera
"Begin with your spiritual center and then work on your emotional and physical health. Your Joyful Soul will sparkle out to others as a result of doing this!" ~Dr. Laurie Mattera
"We are never really alone. Sometimes I struggle from day to day to complete all the tasks before me. It seems overwhelming. But then I remember I can "do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13) and I ask for help. It's amazing how I then breeze through the rest of my day. When you feel it's impossible to finish what is set before you, remember nothing is impossible for Him. That's JOY!" ~Dr. Laurie Mattera
"What we create in our minds is very powerful and affects how we live and how others view us. Make it Joyful." ~Dr. Laurie Mattera
"You don't even have to agree to do it together or talk about it...just start loving your partner and believing they love you, trusting your partner and being trustworthy, respecting your partner and expecting respect, and fostering the friendship between you." ~Dr. Laurie Mattera
"Your soul aches for peace - remember that if you are doing all you can to maintain peace in every aspect of your life, and you are met with resistance, you are still doing all that is in your control, which will bring you peace!" ~Dr. Laurie Mattera
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"I am open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder my path." ~The Burned Hand Expect more (FB)
"Lift someone up today." ~The Burned Hand
"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." ~The Burned Hand
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“After nourishment, shelter and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.” ~Philip Pullman
"Being able to communicate your ideas and stories in a clear and captivating way allows for better social interactions.” ~Philip Pullman
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"No one above you, no one below you... When we make others our gurus, we are not open to our own awareness...which is pretty freakin' awesome. Let yourself know. Your truth, your wholeness, your magic lies within." ~Jenny Perry, Peace, Love, Joy & Sparkles
"A good relationship happens when two people accept each other’s past, support each other’s present, and encourage each other’s future, without trying to micromanage any of part it. So don’t rush relationships, especially those that feel overbearing. Find a partner, and friends for that matter, who encourage you to grow, who won’t cling to you, who will let you go out into the world, and trust that you will come back. And always pay them the same courtesy." ~Marc Chernoff
"A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences." ~Dave Meurer
"A great relationship is based on two main principles. First, appreciate your similarities and second, respect your differences." ~Anon
“A guy out there was meant to be the love of your life, your best friend, your soul mate, the one you can tell your dreams to. He’ll brush the hair out of your eyes. Send you flowers when you least expect it. He’ll call to say goodnight or just cause he’s missing you. He’ll look in your eyes and tell you, you’re the most beautiful girl in the world, and for the first time in your life, you’ll believe it.” ~Anon from Emotional Filmtricks
"A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers." ~Ruth Bell Graham
"A healthy relationship must ultimately be based on trust. To build trust, you always keep your word. You remain consistent and dependable in everything you say and do. You become the kind of team player who is utterly reliable in every situation. You never do or say anything that can shake this foundation of trust upon which a healthy relationship is built." ~Brian Tracy
"A husband and wife should be similar to a hand and an eye: when one’s hand hurts, the eyes cry; and when the eyes cry, the hand wipes away one’s tears." ~Anon
"A life lived by choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived by chance is a life of unconscious reaction." ~ Neale Donald Walsch
"A Man and a Woman, brought together by God and kept together by love, faith and an undying commitment to never give up on each other." ~Anon
"A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life." ~Richard Bach
"A strong marriage requires two people who choose to love each other even on days when they struggle to like each other." ~Dave Willis
"A true relationship is not about age, religion, distance, nor about communicating with each other everyday. It's all about a silent promise made to each other to stay together forever. And the most important is trust and loyalty." ~from Darkblue Skye
"All of life are about relationships. We are as waves in one sea, flowing into each other...and transforming each other...BEING EACH OTHER! No one is ever the same, or ever lost...every wave forever arises from, and returns to the one sea! ......Though the surface of the sea is forever moving and changing, there is the never changing silent stillness deep down below. We must learn to be...the wholeness of the sea!" ~Surf Reyes
"All relationships go through hell, real relationships get through it." ~Anon
"An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband." ~Booth Tarkington
"Appreciation is a big component of marriage." ~Robin McGraw
"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." ~Henry Winkler
"Children are our second chance to have a great parent-child relationship." ~Dr. Laura
"Create the marriage you want, and let your wedding rings remind you of the love and commitment you share as husband and wife." ~Aaron and April Jacob
"Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts; good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with." ~LLL
"Don’t let past relationships and old mistakes ruin your future. Don’t let someone or something that didn’t make it in your life continue to hurt you. If you do, you’re still giving a portion of your life to something that no longer exists – it’s like letting your happiness slip into a black hole. Learn the lesson, release the pain, and move on. Scars remind us of where we have been, not where we are headed." ~LLL
"Don't marry a rich man. Marry a good man. He will spend his life trying to make you happy. No rich man can buy that." ~Staness Jonekos
"Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common-sense." ~Helen Rowland
“For women, getting angry is socially unacceptable, even when the anger is over violence, discrimination, misogyny, and other forms of oppression. Anger is unacceptable because angry women are women in touch with their passion and power, especially in relation to men, which threatens the entire patriarchal order. It’s unacceptable because it forces men to confront the reality of male privilege and women’s oppression and their involvement in it, even if only as passive beneficiaries. Women’s anger challenges men to acknowledge attempts to trivialize oppression with “I was only kidding." And women’s anger is unacceptable to men who look to women to take care of them, to prop up their need to feel in control, and to support them in their competition with other men. When women are less than gracious and good-humored about their own oppression, men often feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, at a loss, and therefore vulnerable." ~Allan G. Johnson
"Healthy relationships... Let's not forget it's you and me versus the problem... Not you versus me." ~Steve Maraboli
"Honesty is always one of the best keys to make a good relationship." ~Anon
"How can a person who cannot be happy alone, be happy in relationship?" ~Osho
"How often does this happen in our life - we find ourselves in relationships that we love, yet as time goes on, we begin looking astray, wondering if there might be something better. Or, we go to work and dread it. And as we dread our work, we look at others and wonder what it would be like to have their job, their husband of wife, their life. But it is hard to achieve anything that lasts and that we love, when we always have one foot out the door. What I have found is that loyalty strengthens love – be loyal to your lover, be loyal to your work, be loyal to yourself. From that place of loyalty will grow and attract more love." ~Charles F. Glassman, MD Coach MD
"How we listen is the defining factor in how our relationships go, and whether the other person is happy to see us at the end of the day." ~Roman Demkiv, Shutterstock
“Human knowledge is never contained in one person. It grows from the relationships we create between each other and the world, and still it is never complete.” ~Paul Kalanithi, When Breath Becomes Air (Goodreads)
"I believe a man and woman should complete one another, not compete with one another. If any relationship you're in isn't worth working for, it's not much of a relationship. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. We should support each others strengths and help each other with our weaknesses. I myself have to remind myself of these things." ~Doug Gonser
"I believe a special relationship should really spring from close and loving friendship with the presence of patience, endurance, affection and respect aided with loyalty and mantled with faith and trust." ~Leah C. Dancel
"I believe the bond of marriage or any relationship between two people is like a bird with the couple being the wings. It takes both wings working equally together to make the bird fly successfully. No matter how hard one wing works and tries the bird will never fly right without the other wing working together. This applies to friendships as well as marriage. The goal should be to complete one another, not to compete with one another. Love is giving, not controlling. Love is patience not pointing fingers. Love is forgiving, not finding fault. Love is divine, not difficult." ~Douglas Gonser
"I promise to be an excellent husband, but give me a wife who, like the moon, will not appear every day in my sky." ~Anton Chekhov
"I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury." ~Groucho Marx
"I would rather be alone with dignity than in a relationship that requires me to sacrifice my self respect." ~Mandy Hale
"If either one of us is supposed to be married in the flesh, I pray He gives you above and beyond what you may pray for. For as you know, He certainly does know best!"~Māchan
“If variety is the spice of life, marriage is the big can of leftover Spam.” ~Johnny Carson
"If you are going to teach a horse something and have a good relationship, you don't make him learn it - you let him learn it." ~Ray Hunt
"If you can leave a relationship with love, empathy, and compassion, without any thoughts of revenge, hatred, or fear, that is how you let go. You can choose to no longer have a relationship with that person or persons." ~Brian L. Weiss
"If you are unhappy, you will always make a relationship with an unhappy person... A miserable person tends to find a miserable partner." ~Osho
"If you’ve been through a traumatic experience, a difficult breakup, or endured a relationship that held you back instead of supporting you to grow, the very best outcome is to learn everything it has to teach you." ~Barb Schmidt
"If you want a stable relationship, get a horse." ~Pasture Road
"In a relationship of co-dependencies, the death of one leaves the other vulnerable." ~Bryan Ng Co
"In a relationship, you need somebody who’s going to call you out, not somebody who’s going to let everything slide. You need somebody who doesn’t want to live without you, but can. Not somebody that is dependent, but somebody who is stronger with you. A relationship is two people, not one." ~Anon
"In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours." ~Unattributed
"In healthy relationships, conflicts are normal, arguments are not. Big difference. When two different people come together to live a good portion of their days in each other's company, conflict happens. They, before meeting, had entire lives, lessons learned, manners taught (or not), and were shown "the way things are done" by all those family, friends, and strangers who they ever encountered before meeting each other. " ~Happiness In Your Life
"Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is the person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted." ~Anon
"It's a lot easier to make money than it is to make a relationship work." ~Karen Gumtow
"It's important to nurture your marriage. I think wanting time away from work has been good for that." ~Tom Selleck
"It is more rewarding to resolve the problem than to dissolve the relationship." ~Rick Warren
"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." ~Frederick Nietzsche
"It is the marriage of the soul with nature that makes the intellect fruitful." ~Anon
"It may have been observed that there is no regular path for getting out of love as there is for getting in. Some people look upon marriage as a short cut that way, but it has been known to fail." ~Thomas Hardy
"It’s not always about sex, sometimes the best type of intimacy is where you just lay back, laugh together at the stupidest things, hold each other, and enjoy each others company." ~Anon
"It took me a long time to learn the difference between working on a healthy relationship and wasting my time on a long goodbye. Never again!" ~Steve Maraboli
"Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half-shut afterwards." ~Benjamin Franklin
"Let go of relationships that do not serve you. That means negative people, dishonest people, people who don’t respect you, people who are overly critical and relationships that prevent you from growing. You can’t grow as a person, if you don’t have people in your life who want to grow with you." ~Preston Waters
“Many marriages would be better off if the wife and the husband clearly understood that they are on the same side." ~Zig Ziglar
"Many people are forgetting how to communicate to their partners in their relationships. Instead of discussing and solving their problems with their partners, they share them with toxic friends, work associates and others post them on the internet. If your partner is doing something that bothers you, talk to him or her and stop letting facebook inboxes, likes, retweets ruin what you are trying to build... Beware of third Party!" ~Emotional Filmtricks
"Many people spend more time planning the wedding than they do planning the marriage." ~Zig Ziglar
"Marriage and hanging go by destiny; matches are made in heaven." ~Robert Burton
"Marriage becomes sweet when the couples learn how to communicate in love." ~Marriage is Beautiful
"Marriage is a place of forgiveness that welcomes one home, and arms they can run to in the midst of a storm. It's a grace." ~Darlene Schacht
"Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is a husband." ~Anon
"Marriage is a very good thing, but I think it's a mistake to make a habit out of it." ~W. Somerset Maugham from "The Treasure"
"Marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you’ll always figure out a way to get through it." ~Nicholas Sparks
"Marriage is beautiful when you are kind to your spouse!" ~Kalu Igwe
"Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner." ~Amy Bloom
"Marriage without friendship is like a bird without wings." ~D. Schacht from I Love My Family
"Marry the guy who loves to hold your hand. Will go on long walks with you. Is serious but knows how to have fun. Makes you laugh. Will join in on your random bursts of song. Watches chick flicks just to spend time with you. Lets his inner-child out sometimes. Isn’t afraid to be himself. Will stand up for what he believes in. Will stand up for you and protect you. Makes you feel like a princess. Treats you with the utmost respect. You can be completely yourself with. You can talk to about anything. Will pray with you and for you. Loves God and loves you." ~Anon
"Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love, and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep, and dark." ~N’tima
“Marry your best friend.
Marry someone who you wouldn’t mind
waking up to every day
for the rest of your life.
The one who makes you glad to be alive.
Marry someone who drives you crazy.
The one who frustrates you.
The one who calms you.
Marry the one you don’t mind fighting with,
because they will be fair about it.
Don’t marry someone
who gives their ego
than they give you.
Marry someone who makes you
the best version of yourself.
The one who believes in you,
even when you don’t.
The one who stands by you,
through thick and thin.
Marry someone you can’t imagine your life without.
Marry the one you are insanely in love with.
And the one who is insanely in love with you.
Marry the one who knows what you want to say,
when you’re too tired to say it with words.
The one you can spend comfortable silences with
from time to time.
Marry your soul mate.
Marry your best friend.”
"Marrying a man is like buying something you've been admiring for a long time in a shop window. You may love it when you get it home, but it doesn't always go with everything else." ~Jean Kerr (b. 1923)
"Musical marriage is one scripted with balance and scored in harmony... It has positives and negatives..." ~Leah C. Dancel, 8 June 2016
“My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.” ~Charles Churchill on Matrimony
"No amount of political labelling can change the value that marriage is the expression of a unique union between a man and a woman. It always has been and always will be." ~Malcolm Rankin
"No marriage is all sunshine, but two people can share one umbrella and survive the storm together." ~ShiShi Rea-Dancel, FB
"No matter what, once in your life, someone will hurt you. That someone will take all that you are, and rip it into pieces and they won’t even watch where those pieces land. But through the breakdown, you’ll learn something about yourself. You’ll learn that you are strong. And no matter how hard they destroy you, that you can conquer anyone and anything." ~LLL
"No matter what stage in a relationship you are in, none of us are immune to having feelings of insecurity, neediness, and fear taking over in the relationship." ~Michael Fiore
"No relationship is endless sunshine. In a relationship there are cloudy days, windy nights, rainy days, cold nights and stormy days. But once you’ve learned that every condition is temporary, you’ll have discovered the secret to making your relationship last. Therefore don’t let the temporal conditions of life cause you to make permanent decisions in your relationship. No problem lasts forever. If you learn to weather the storms and play in the rain you’ve learned the secret of surviving each passing storm." ~Emotional Filmtricks
"One of the reasons why relationships end is because one is doing everything to save it, and the other is finding every way to end it." ~from Relationship Status Quotes
"One of the things that makes relationships so difficult is the way in which we protect ourselves from suffering — from our own and from each other’s. Because when you love someone you don’t want to lay your suffering on them and your fears. Also you are afraid if you open your heart too far their suffering will overwhelm you." ~Ram Dass
"Opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, dreams… that is being naked.” ~Rob Bell
"Pride destroys relationships and marriages. You are human and you make mistakes. Swallow your pride, admit when you are in wrong and take responsibility for your actions. Don't seek to justify your mistakes or push blame to someone else. Sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and say, "I am sorry, I was wrong please forgive me." to save your relationship." ~EMFT
"Relationships are about give and give, not give and take. You will know you are with the right person when they give as much as you." ~LLL
"Relationships are for people who are committed to being honest. Honesty is a way of life for some people. Learn to value this quality, learn to recognize it and to admire it in others. Only fall in love with an honest person. Knowing how to spot an honest person can save you from painful failure in a relationship." ~John Estrellas
"Relationships are never easy. Some days you’re going to wake up and that love you know you have for the person in the bed next to you, isn’t going to come so naturally. We always say “no one told us it was going to be this hard” but they do.We choose not to listen, because it seems so unreasonable that one day you will be able to keep your hands off of each other. One day you will spend your free time away from each other. The only way you can make a relationship last is if you work at it every day and never give up on it. Because if you take time to fight and argue and still can’t imagine leaving them, then you love them. And that’s the kind of love that’s forever." ~Anon
"Relationships aren't here to make us happy (for happiness is only found within). They are here to make us profoundly conscious." ~Eckhart Tolle
"Relationships are our greatest learning tool if you analyse ourselves in reaction to others, rather than analysing others to see if they can change enough to be a perfect match for us. There are no perfect matches, but there are connections with meaning. Unfortunately, most of us don't know the meaning of the love we have, until long after it is over." ~Becky Walsh
"Relationship gets stronger when both are willing to understand mistakes and forgive each other." ~from Darkblue Skye
"Relationships. It's more than just the dates, holding hands and kissing. It's about accepting each other's differences and flaws. It's about being yourself and finding happiness together. It's about seeing an imperfect person perfectly." ~Anon
"Relationships last not because they were destined to last. Relationships last long because two people made a choice to keep it, fight for it and work for it." ~Lessons Learned In Life
"Relationships should be a safe haven, not a battlefield. The world is hard enough already." ~from Love Wide Open
"Remember, your spouse is an opportunity to show love, kindness and gratitude; the best expression of meekness and humility and above all, the best person after God to lavish all the praise you can fathom on." ~Anon
"Romance is everything." ~Gertrude Stein
"Say 'I love you' often. Forget mistakes. Forgive. Plan alone time. Focus on the things you love about each other. Do not expect perfection. Support one another. Say 'thank you' for everyone needs to be appreciated. Hold hands. Take walks together. Hug and kiss everyday." ~LLL
"Sometimes the door closes on a relationship, not because we failed but because something bigger than us says this no longer fits our life. So, lock the door, shed your tears, and when you’re ready, turn around and look for the new door that’s opened. It’s a sign that you’re no longer that person you were, it’s time to change into who you are." ~Lee Goff
"Some times the person who made you feel so special yesterday is the same person who makes you feel so unwanted today. And that is why getting into a relationship whether in business or in love does not only involve feelings, it certainly involves maturity and careful thinking." ~Francis Kong
"Staying in an unhealthy relationship can keep a person from finding their own way and moving to the next level of their own path — and that person could even be you. Sometimes the best way to save someone is to walk-away. Real love sometimes means saying goodbye." ~Bryant McGill
"Successful Relationships are built on true and genuine friendship: Your partner should be your Best Friend Forever. True friends spend time together; they talk together, laugh together and cry together. True friends enjoy each other’s company while they celebrate life’s moments together. True love is more than just kissing, hugging or sleeping together; it’s about loyalty, honesty and courtesy - attributes that you’ll always find in a best friend. Don’t just love each other, take your relationship to the next level and become true best friends also; you’ll have fun and enjoy life together. Genuine friendship creates wonderful relationships. Don’t Just be your partner’s partner; become your partner’s Best Friend Forever!" ~from EMFT
"The art of staying happily married is the greatest of all the arts, because everything that is fine and decent about our world depends on the skill with which men and women practice this art." ~Robert W Burns
"The call to love is not about an individual relationship, it’s about your relationship with the world." ~Begin with Yes
"The husband is the anchor and the sail. The wife provides the balance so when the storm comes, both strength combined can overcome the odds and prevent the boat from capsizing." ~Leah C. Dancel, March 23, 2018 on HOW TO UNDERSTAND A MAN
"The husband who wants a happy marriage should learn to keep his mouth shut and his checkbook open." ~Groucho Marx
"The most important marriage skill is listening to your partner in a way that they can't possibly doubt that you love them." -Diane Sollee
"The most important thing in all human relationships is conversation, but people don’t talk anymore, they don’t sit down to talk and listen. They go to the theater, the cinema, watch television, listen to the radio, read books, but they almost never talk." ~Paulo Coelho
"The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of Divine accident." ~Sir Hugh Walpole
"The plain truth is that honesty is critical to the moral fiber of every individual. Experts agree that people who are honest feel better about themselves. They are able to enjoy stronger friendships, are more successful in school and in other pursuits and, in the long run, have deeper, happier marriages. It is from honesty that so many other desirable traits spring forth." ~Betsy Brown Braun
"The practice of forgiveness can play an important role in your relationships with others. Forgiveness will enable you to correct distortions in your relationships and to improve the quality, intensity, and meaningfulness of relationships. It means letting go of past resentments toward others so that you can experience them in the present. Even if you do not "feel" like forgiving someone, forgiving them will release you from the hold of the past and allow you to experience the world in a new way. To forgive is to step outside the vicious circle of interpretation, where concepts from the past dominate experience, and to begin to live in terms of a larger, more worthy purpose. Forgiveness eliminates fear and anxiety, weakness and vulnerability." ~Ari Kiev
"The purpose of relationship may not be what you think. If you are excited about forming a relationship based on what it looks like you can get, rather than what you can give, you have started off on the wrong foot entirely, and you could be heading for a big disappointment. The purpose of all relationships is to create a sacred context within which you can express the fullness of who you are. And who you are is an experience you have before you enter relationship, not because you did." ~Neale Donald Walsch
"The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves." ~Anon
“The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.” ~Harriet Lerner
"The truth is, trying to resolve a conflict can sometimes create more problems than it fixes. Some battles are simply not worth fighting. And sometimes the most optimal relationship strategy is one of 'live and let live'." ~John Gottman
"There are lessons in every relationship. I know it is hard to fathom this, but sometimes there are people who we meet, just so they can teach us to let go." ~I Must Be A Mermaid
"There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life." ~Anon
“There cannot be a relationship unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is understanding, patience, and persistence.” ~Cornel West
"There's no good story without romance." ~Stephenie Meyer
“There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.” ~Martin Luther
"There’s that one type of hug that a woman loves. That tight hug where you put some strength into it, using your both arms, not just one. The one where a woman could bury her face in a man’s chest, that makes her feel safe and secure, that makes her feel warm on the outside and inside, that makes her feel wanted, the one that lasts for awhile, and the one that would give her the impression that you care." ~Anon
"They say marriages are made in Heaven. But so is thunder and lightning." ~Clint Eastwood
"This goes to all my Single Friends out there: Not everyone that you see in a relationship is happy and comfortable. Many are in pain, they’re stressed, ever in regrets, tears, torture, they have sleepless nights, they are lonely and others are not contented with the people they have. Therefore, take your time in choosing the right person to spend your life with. Don’t rush because being single is not a curse. Keep working on yourself as you are praying to God to help you in finding the right person." ~Emotional Filmtricks
"Thoughts that are often never expressed can influence your relationship in ways you never imagined. What you think will greatly influence what you say and how you act. The expectations you carry will affect what how you move through your relationship. Change your thoughts and change your relationship." ~Dr. Jeff Kane
"To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all." ~Helen Rowland
"To be happy with a man you have to understand him a lot and love him less , but...to be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and never ever try to understand her !." ~Bhalchandra
"To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship." ~Domenico Cieri Estrada
"Ultimately, it is the quality of our relationship with ourselves that affects the quality of all relationships we attract and accept into our lives." ~Jennifer Tanna
“We can't manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness. Those who can't respect our boundaries are telling us that they don't love our nos. They only love our yeses, our compliance. "I only like it when you do what I want.” ~Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
"Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution." ~Deepak Chopra
"When a wife has a good husband it is easily seen in her face." ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
"When a woman knows, and works towards making her home, a peaceful and quiet place, a castle where her man will feel safe and comfortable to stay in always, The atmosphere in this home will make the man to cherish every moment he spends in his home with his queen, and anytime he is away, he will always longingly look forward to the time he will get the chance to step foot in his home again to be with his queen." ~Marriage is Beautiful via Kalu Igwe Kalu
"When two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, God is the electricity that surges between them." ~Martin Buber
"When you meet the other half of your soul, you will understand why all the other lovers let you go. When you meet the one who deserves your heart, you’ll understand why things didn’t work out with everyone else." ~Anon
“When you meet your soulmate, let the connection, the relationship be what it is. It may be five minutes, five hours, five days, five months, five years or a lifetime. Let it manifest itself, the way it’s meant to. It has a destiny. This way, if it stays or if it leaves, you will be softer from having been loved. Souls come into, return, open, and sweep through your life for a myriad of reasons, let them be who and what they are meant to be.” ~Unattributed
"Whenever you depend on somebody, you can never forgive that man. He makes you dependent, he makes you feel helpless." ~Osho
"Whenever your spouse is facing difficulties, remember they will probably need your support more than they will need your advice." ~Marriage is Beautiful
"You're going to date a few cowards before you meet someone brave enough to love you." ~R.H. Sin
"You can be in a relationship for two years and feel nothing; you can be in a relationship for two months and feel everything. Time is not a measure of quality; of infatuation, or of love." ~Anon
"You deserve someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life." ~Rule of a Relationship from Simple Reminders
"You don't have to be married to have a good friend as your partner for life." ~Greta Garbo
"Your primary relationship is with yourself and God, and every other relationship follows from there. To attract, heal, or balance a relationship, then snuggle more closely with your loving Creator. As you feel safe and loved within, so shall your other relationships bloom and prosper." ~Believe The Best Is Yet To Come
"Your relationships can be loving, fulfilling, and harmonious, and at other times cold, distant, and discordant." ~Susan Shumsky
"A man's mother is his misfortune, but his wife is his fault." ~Walter Bagehot
"He may love you. He probably does. He probably thinks about you all the time. But that isn’t what matters. What matters is what he’s doing about it, and what he’s doing about it is nothing. And if he’s doing nothing, you most certainly shouldn’t do anything. You need someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life."~Eliza Engellenner
"It is really asking too much of a woman to expect her to bring up her husband and her children too." ~Lillian Bell
"People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing." ~Dr. Brian Weiss
"The worst thing about relationships is not to end up all alone, but to end up with people that make you feel all alone." ~Robin Williams
"That moment of your life when you realize that you are in love, and at the same time, you realize that you are never meant to be together and you don't know you should smile or cry." ~Feel Proud To Be who You Are
"You make friends with people because you’re looking for lifelong relationships, not friendships of convenience or simplicity." ~Soul Spot
“You move on and live each day. Feel me in the morning air, and when you wake up and make your coffee. I will be there always.” ~Babbette Jacquish (FB)
"If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend." ~Henri Nouwen
"It is every woman's dream to feel loved and secure in the heart and arms of the man she loves." ~Leah C. Dancel, 7 July 2014
"Missing someone isn't about how long since you've seen them or the amount of time you've talked them. It's about that very moment when you're doing something and wishing they were right there with you." ~Anon
"The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain singing to it. You and you alone make me feel that I am alive. Other men it is said have seen angels, but I have seen thee and thou art enough." ~George Edward Moore from Mastering Relationship With Love
“There's all kinds of reasons that you fall in love with one person rather than another. Timing is important. Proximity is important. Mystery is important.” ~Helen Fisher
"You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there." ~Emotional Filmtricks
FACTS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
1. There is nothing like a perfect relationship.
2. Every woman has a price.
3. Those who cheat and lie before marriage are most likely to continue in the act when married!
4. Most relationships are relationships of convenience.
5. What most lovers mistake for love is actually lust that wont stand the test of time.
6. The bitter truth works like bitter pills.
7. The sooner we leave those who cheat and lie, the better and happier we would be.
8. You may force a girl to go out with you, but you cant force her to love you.
9. Most men who beats women also cheat on their woman.
10. Believe it or not, an unfaithful partner can also kill you.
11. Destroy conceit and deceit or conceit and deceit will ruin you.
12. Wise men do not gossip on how good their woman is on bed.
13. The lust for money and sex is the ruin of all relationships.
14. You do not need money to win the heart of a woman, who truly loves you.
15. Never give up on love!
RELATIONSHIP: I HOPE
"I hope that someday you find someone that gives you butterflies the moment you meet them. And that the first time you touch, it feels like electricity is running through your body.
I hope that when you’re with them, you never want to leave.
I hope you are the first and last thing they think about every day.
I hope you play it cool in front of people, but can’t keep your hands off each other in private.
I hope that when you give them your heart, they don’t break it. I hope that the things they tell you aren’t just things you want to hear, but things they want to say.
I hope that you fit in their arms better than the last piece of a puzzle, and that you always feel safe when they hold you.
I hope that when you fight, you fight hard, but that when you love, you love harder.
I hope that once you find them, you can’t picture your life without them.
I hope that they take your breath away.
I hope that, together, you create happiness.
I hope that with them, you’re not afraid of the future, but excited for it.
I hope that, every day, they tell you how much they love you.
I hope that when you find them, you realize it before it’s too late.
I hope that you take them and love them and never let them go.
I hope you find it."
~Lauren M. Smith
Source: Lessons Learned in Life
15 Ways to Keep a Relationship Working
1. Love each other
2. Don’t lie
3. Keep communication open
4. Stay sweet
5. When you get hurt, focus on forgiving
6. Never talk about break-ups
7. Never say ‘it’s ok’ when it’s not
8. Learn to put your ego aside
9. If you say ‘sorry,' mean it
10. Don’t compare your past with your present
11. Don’t talk about your ex’s
12. Practice 'give and take'
13. Be aware of your partner’s feelings
14. After a fight, work on resolving the issue right
away; don’t let the days go by
15. Although there is no ‘perfect person’ out there, There IS a ‘right one’ for you.
Source: Emotional Filmtricks FB
The Guy for you
“He’s not perfect.
You aren't either, and the two of you will never be perfect.
But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice,
and if he admits to being human and making mistakes,
hold onto him and give him the most you can.
He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you everymoment,
but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break.
Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he cangive.
Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes youmad,
and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had.
Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”
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"You have to find what sparks a light in you so that you, in your own way can illuminate the world." ~Lynne, Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
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"A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts (Lynne)
"A place of peace can be as simple as a corner of your own mind." ~Unattributed by Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"As I live each day may I do my part. To make a difference and touch one heart. Each day it is my goal to bring smiles and laughter to every soul." ~UDR
"As the day turns into night, keep your worries out of sight. Close your eyes and go to sleep, for all the memories are yours to keep." ~Lynne Taylor
"At times we are all a little fragile, be gentle, loving and kind to yourself." ~Lynne Taylor, UDandR
"Don't let someone's compliments get to your head, and don't let their criticisms get to your heart." ~Lynne Taylor from Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Don’t worry about the family that ignores you and acts like you don’t matter. Love the people who are always there for you no matter what, they are the ones worthy of your love and affection." ~Lynne Taylor
"Everyone wants to be the sun to lighten up someone's life - but why not be the moon, to brighten in the darkest hour?" ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Every situation is an opportunity to learn and to grow, so that we'll have a brighter and more beautiful tomorrow." ~Lynne Taylor from Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Friends are like street lights along the road. They don't make the distance any shorter but they light up the path and make the walk worthwhile." ~© Lynne and FB Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Friends who uplift you are the best kind of friends. You don't simply keep them. You have to treasure them always. " ~Lynne Taylor
"Health is the greatest gift,
Contentment the greatest wealth,
Faithfulness the best relationship."
"I am in competition with no one. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone. I am simply trying to be a better person than the one I was yesterday." ~Unattributed by Ups, Downs & Roundabouts
"I am starting to trust this journey of life even when I don’t understand all the detours." ~Lynne Taylor of Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"I have uncovered my most beautiful gifts during my most challenging times." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"I keep my house clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be comfortable." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they liked me. Now I look around and wonder if I like them!" ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"In accepting the sparkle in ourselves, we are more comfortable when we see the shine in others." ~UDR
"In order to learn, grow, and be successful you must step out of your comfort zone. Everything you desire is on the other side of fear." ~Lynne Taylor of Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"It is not the things we get, but the hearts we touch that will measure our success in life." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance. It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness. Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Let the mirror reflect your inner beauty. It's what you feel that counts, not how you look to others." ~Unattributed
"Let your joy burst forth like flowers in the spring." ~UDR
"Life isn't meant to be easy, it's meant to be lived. Sometimes good, other times rough. But with every up and down, you learn lessons that make you strong." ~from UDand Roundabouts
"LIFE is sometimes unpredictable. But you can't live your life afraid of what you think will come next, find the courage to move forward and enjoy this beautiful life of yours." ~Lynne Taylor, UDandR
"Listen to your own voice, your own soul. Too many people listen to the noise of the world instead of themselves." ~Lynne Taylor, USandR
"Make small adjustments as you figure out what works and what doesn’t. A big part of your life is a result of the choices you make. If you don’t like some part of your life, then it is time to start making changes and better choices. This change may not be easy, but it is possible. Habits that keep us stuck in life are made in each moment, day by day. Undoing these habits takes the same exact path. Focus on the small things you can do right now, not the big things you can’t. These small daily changes add up to huge results in the end." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Moral principles do not depend on a majority vote. Wrong is wrong, even if everybody is wrong. Right is right, even if nobody is right." ~UDR
"Only a camera has the ability to capture time. Life doesn't stop, it goes on." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Only trust someone who can see these things in you.
The sorrow behind your smile,
The love behind your anger, and
the Reason behind your silence."
~from Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"People who are attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t be by your side forever. But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you." ~from UDandRoundabouts
"Speak your truth. There is no greater sadness than holding on to the words you never had the courage to speak." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"You are a mother, you are a sister, you are a daughter, you are a wife... You are a woman!"Sometimes people come into your life not to love you... but to make you feel that you are worth loving." UDR
I take pride in being a woman and I wish all the women a very Happy Women's Day! Keep shining the way you are! God bless. Love and Light." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Plant the seeds of your new intentions, nourish them with tender loving care and they will soon manifest in abundance." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"Sometimes you just need to hear someone whisper the words.... I BELIEVE IN YOU when you think you can't get through. So I am here to remind you, I BELIEVE IN YOU!" ~UDandRoundabouts
"Sometimes you never really know the true value of a moment, until it becomes a memory." ~UDR
"The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it, and CHANGE." ~UDandRoundabouts
"The most difficult phase of life is not when no one understands you; it is when you don't understand yourself." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"There is nothing wrong with you. We are all different and you are just perfect!" ~Lynne Taylor
"Today take a few minutes by yourself and simply listen." ~Lynne Taylor
"To those who see with loving eyes, life is beautiful.
To those who speak with tender voices, life is peaceful.
To those who help with gentle hands, life is full.
And to those who care with compassionate hearts,
Life is good beyond all measure."
~From Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"When life gets difficult, sometimes we just need reminding that our Angels are always with us.." ~From Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"When we create Peace, Harmony and Balance in our minds we will find it in our lives." ~UDandR
"When you feel sad, it is important to give yourself permission to feel the sadness. Share your feelings with someone who has the sensitivity to give you the space to let the feeling fully be felt. Only then can you begin to let go. Remember - feeling sad is not a crime!" ~from Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"When you see a feather drifting on the breeze. You will know your Angel sent a sign, to put your mind at ease." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"You are never lost if you trust your heart, it will always take you home." ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
"You don’t get to choose how you’re going to die or when, but you do choose how you’re going to live. Make it count!" ~Ups, Downs and Roundabouts
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